It's a Heart Thing

Sitting in the basement living room, we paused between thoughts, weighing our words before they left our lips. Things have changed so much. We are not the same people we once were. And for that, I smile. Thank God.

Thank God we can see the change. Thank God we choose our words with care—not out of fear, not walking on eggshells, but out of love, choosing not to wound each other. Thank God we look inward first, searching our hearts before reacting, before letting words escape that could cut deep.

Yes, things have changed. And I am so grateful they have.

We don’t have it all figured out. And that? That makes me smile, too. Even laugh. We get on each other’s nerves. We misplace things. We get in each other’s way. And yet, there’s a rhythm to it—a balance, a harmony, a flow. We’re a team. We show up when the other can’t give their full 100%. We extend grace. Ahug fills the blanks when words fall short, speaking volumes that words never could.

Marriage is heavy. A weight that, at times, presses against the vows we made without knowing which ones would carry the most weight. For better or worse. For richer or poorer. In sickness and in health. To love and to cherish. Till death do us part.

It wasn’t always this way. We had to unlearn and relearn. We had to rewrite old patterns, let go of what no longer fit, and grow into the people we are today. That’s how love should be—a constant evoLution, an unfolding, refining.

“Hey, we should start a podcast,” he said. I smiled. Baby, I already started our book. Wink!

Our introduction to our book is more than just a guide. It’s a glimpse into the questions we asked ourselves, each other, and even the ones we never spoke out loud. Maybe we didn’t always have the answers, but the love we shared answered for us. When it comes to matters of the heart—guard it.

We’re excited to introduce the first of many guides, sharing our stories and helping navigate the journey of partnership through our eyes.

It's a Heart Thing_ Guide